dolari | Jul. 3rd, 2008

Jul. 3rd, 2008

As seen at

This articledescribes a situation in which a trans person was removed from a bisexual personals site for being transgender.

The site BisexualDatingNow.com, stated "We do not have a site appropriate for transgenders." and "It’s that T side [in LGBT] that we have not been able to fully accommodate within our program. That is shown [by the fact] that in our registration, transgender is not one of the options we provide, and we don’t provide that as such. ... That identity is not an identity we have an ability to support,"

The article also mentioned something about being a man on a lesbian dating site. I don't fully understand what that's all about, but regardless, their handling of the situation is very inappropriate.

If you're interested... they have a contact page that you can go to and send them a message containing your opinion on the matter.

I've never understood the T-discrimination in the Gay Movement, It's a bit rare, sure, but when it rears its ugly head, it's usually pretty arrogant and proud of it.

We're in the same boat people, lets not pass out life jackets only to people you think are wothy of saving.

As seen at

gentle_gamer's LJ:

This articledescribes a situation in which a trans person was removed from a bisexual personals site for being transgender.

The site BisexualDatingNow.com, stated "We do not have a site appropriate for transgenders." and "It’s that T side [in LGBT] that we have not been able to fully accommodate within our program. That is shown [by the fact] that in our registration, transgender is not one of the options we provide, and we don’t provide that as such. ... That identity is not an identity we have an ability to support,"

The article also mentioned something about being a man on a lesbian dating site. I don't fully understand what that's all about, but regardless, their handling of the situation is very inappropriate.

If you're interested... they have a contact page that you can go to and send them a message containing your opinion on the matter.

Okay, one era at a time then.

Last Week

LAst week, when I got paid, I looked over the vacation time I had...25 hours. After some finagling, I realized that I could take almost a whole week off it I coincided with the 4th, giving me the 1st-4th. The only downside being that I'd need to come in early on Monday to cover because no one would be there to cover the one person on the phone.

I wonder if they're seeing that they're undermanned without me. Hmm?

A girl can dream. ;)

So then - Saturday....

Current Mood: hot
Current Music: K-Eye News

Okay, one era at a time then.

Last Week

Current Mood: hot
Current Music: K-Eye News

I forgot to mention that last week (two Saturdays ago), my best friend Steph, her sister Hattie and Steph's little girl Emily stopped by to visit after work. They picked up Emily up from camp, then stopped by my work for a while. We ended up at a Mediterranean restaurant for lunch...but this entry is about this LAST Saturday:

Saturday

A short day at work, no calls, no interruptions, and I got home early to get ready to go to the family reunion. I got a few hours of sleep and made my way to the Reunion in the little town of Losoya, Texas. I went rather androgynously, since, even though my parents have decided to finally support my transition, the reunion is prolly not a good place to pull a stunt like that. Besides,I was going to be in the very very very very small minority of supporters here, best to eek out of the place with all my fingers and toes intact. Not that I changed - I only have women's clothes now.... :)

Our family hails from Losoya, for as long as we can remember, and we're related to most everyone in town. Actually, we'e related to most everyone in South San Antonio, but that's besides the point. Losoya is where it all started. Consdierng 600 people were showing up, we tripled the population of the town just by being there. :)

This was the crush of people I walked into - and there's more on the left and right on the picture. A LOT MORE.

According to mom, 650 people showed up, which put the 470 people frmo 1997 to shame (and that still doesn't count one family "grouping" that ddn't show up cause they're angry with the rest of for...something, we're not quite sure):

1997 - I'm in here somewhere

I gave up trying to say hi to individual people, then gave up trying to say hi to at least each of my aunts and uncle "Groupings" and finally just went back to where my parents were, and just met people as they passed by. Most of these folks I hadn't seen since 1997, and back then I'd just moved to PA to start my transition, so I had goofy badly kept hair back then. Now it's long, curly, well kept. I've never ever EVER had so many people fondle my hair. EVERYONE was playing with it, pulling at the ringlets. And who was the proudest of my hair? My mom. Little Miss "I don't like you having long hair." If only I could go back about 20 years and LAUGH LAUGH LAUGH at her.

My mom continues to surprise me. I did a stupid thing as around age 20 or so. I destroyed all the pictures of me I could find. Literally ripped them apart and destroyed them. And while now I regret doing that, mom's managing to find pictures of me pre-transition to use. Each table had a centerpiece my mom made with a family picture of each, and she managed to find one with all four of us, including me from about 1995. In a TUX no less. A Tux with sneakers (I didn't want to wear a tux, and my only concession was to wear sneakers with it...she wasn't amused till she saw David Letterman do it, then she agreed wholeheartedly).

So without Further Ado, Jenn, pre-transition:

Jenn Dolari and David Koresh - seperated at birth?

A good time was had by all, even me. My sister and I left for home before my parents (it took 30 minutes to get to the door as I said bye to a few people I hadn't seen all night) , when I noticed the truck was running loudly. I wasn't sure what to make of it, but decided to check it out in the morning. I'd decided to stay home for the night and get some good sleep....

Current Mood: itchy

Jenn Dolari and David Koresh - seperated at birth?

Current Mood: itchy

Sunday

I was really really really tired Saturday night, so I decided to spend the night at my parents. They' want me to fix their PCs anyway now that they had a new service provider (AT&T Tech Support - you spent 1 hour troubleshooting with my sister...AND NEVER CHECKED TO SEE IF THE COMPUTER WAS ASKING FOR A DHCP IP? I fixed the computer in 2 minutes).

Dad got it into his head that maybe he could take the air conditioner from their undrivable 4x4 and install it in my truck. I was wary about this, but I'm glad he decided he wanted a look. After starting the truck I noticed the truck was running loudly again. Dad said the muffler probably had a hole in it, and I went to look. The muffler didn't have a hole, it had fallen off and was hanging on the ground. O_o It must have fallen off it's hitch during the ride back from Losoya, and then dropped to the ground once I parked (it wasn't clanging on the way up, plus, if I DID try to drive the muffler would have gone through the bed of my truck!

I'm actually really wary when it comes to dad working on my truck, I get REALLY REALLY REALLY wary. There's an old saying..."You can do it cheap, or you can do it right." Dad always goes for the first. A brake line leak is fixed by hammering the line shut. A hole in the tubing? Bubblegum and duct tape (really!).

However, it does need work. New muffler, oil change, check the hoses, maybe get the 4x4s AC in the pickup. I'll just have Emily check his work when she gets here. In the meantime I have Dad's pickup (his AC smells like...well...like someone took a dump in it, so I'm not all that optimistic about the AC). Hopefully, though, even is he goes the cheap route, it'll hold together until Seattle. It can break down in Seattle all it wants.

That's antoher thing! I'm looking at buying a pickup soon, and I'm actually REALLY REALLY REALLY glad I waited as Chevy is making a hybrid pickup coming out later this year. It'll be expensive, but worth it in gas savings. If I can make the pickup last a bit longer, I may be able to get one at a lower price than IT JUST CAME OUT AND YOU'RE GOING TO PAY THROUGH THE NOSE FOR IT.

Current Mood: tired

Sunday

Current Mood: tired

Monday

Nothing happened today. Really. Do not panic.

Current Mood: itchy
Current Music: Star Wars

Monday

Nothing happened today. Really. Do not panic.

Current Mood: itchy
Current Music: Star Wars

Tuesday

On Monday I called around to dentists and optometrists and realized I'd waitied too long. No one could see me anytime this week and so now my dentist and optometrist/new glasses thing will have to wait till I'm in Seattle. Hopefully I'll have benefits at my next job, cause unfortuntely, I let these go to waste.

That said, I had nothing to do - so I thew Tuesday away. It was just a way to relax have fun, and goof off. What I didn't realize was that I'd end up on Second Life all day. Between helping a friend who had just gotten an account, a fireworks show for Canada Day, meeting with Emily, I'd spent nearly the whole day there.

It was also a day where I played around with something I never thought I would:

I have kid avatars.

I love the stompyboots the kids have.

::rubs forehead::

How the mighty have fallen.

When I first got on SL, I was very very very wary of ageplayers. I'd had a BAD experience with one years ago, but in SL, one of my close friends played one in world. I didn't know what to make of it, really - and, well...she was my friend, and like I told her, if she'd have killed a man with her bare hands, I'd trust she had a very good reason for it. Over time, I became part of this girl's friends, then an aunt to her, then an aunt to her siblings, and eventually friendly to all the kid avvies I encountered.

On a lark,I tried the "transmogorifier" the Kids Second Life Fifth Birthday which is supposed to make you into a kid avvie. To my horror, I came out looking like the spitting image of a kid's version of a person I disliked VERY much. I mean to the point that I swear the person who deisgned her MAY HAVE BEEN HER. So I kept the shape, then put on my own skin/clothes over it, and it came out CYOOT.

I've played with the avatar now and then...I tweaked the Kid Carrie so she looked more like a kid version of herself (I need to chubbify her cheeks a bit now that I think about it). I haven't done much with them, though, as I'm kinda conflicted about it all, still...but you know, you only go so far down the rabbit hole before you become a rabbit yourself. ;)

Tuesday

Wednesday

With Tuesday eaten by Second Life, I took time out today to clean house. I really gave everything a good scrubdown EXCEPT for my bedroom, which is going to be a job and a half itself.

Now, I often say I can't cook much. Just "mix stuff up and throw it in the oven." That's over simplifying it - but if enough of what I make is "pre-done" I can actually make a really good meal:

Lemon Spiced Chicken in Curry with Basmati Rice and Paratha. (Sorry about the low quality - my camera ran out of juice!)

How it was made:
Baked up some pre-marinated HEB Lemon Spiced Chicken Breasts (chopped)
Boiled some water, dried onions and a block of S&B curry. Once the curry was made, I threw the chicken breasts in.
Boiled up some basmati rice in my rice steamer.
TOok some frozen parathas and reheated them.

Good dinner, minimum complexity. :9