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Jun. 22nd, 2021 03:33 am30 Questions For Pride Month, Day 21: How often do you associate with other trans people?
It's funny - when I first started my support group, it was drilled into me that YOU DON'T ASSOCIATE WITH ANYONE OUTSIDE THE GROUP. Why? It could attract unwanted attention and out both you and the person you talk to. For some time, I basically tried not to associate with any trans folk.
It wasn't until 1996 when I worked with a trans-woman that I started opening up to others. And when I transitioned, I decided that as part of my "I don't pass so I'm going to just be the best transwoman I can in public and hope I can sway some opinions" that I was a safe person to come to for other transfolk.
At Nintendo, after two trans friends were let go, (I thought) I was the only transperson on the call center floor. If someone was trans, I went out of my way to make sure they felt welcome, and if they had any policy questions they could come to me. As a manager, I went out of my way to make sure the trans-reps under me were taken care of, and represented as themselves should they want it.
One of the nice things was the "last batch" of trans folks before I left didn't NEED any help. They were confident and ready to take on the world.
So I like to think I associate with other transfolks, and help them out (and they help me) when necessary. The reality is, I don't associate with many people at all. Even my close friends rarely see me! ;)
https://twitter.com/gwenners/status/1399574609536503810
It's funny - when I first started my support group, it was drilled into me that YOU DON'T ASSOCIATE WITH ANYONE OUTSIDE THE GROUP. Why? It could attract unwanted attention and out both you and the person you talk to. For some time, I basically tried not to associate with any trans folk.
It wasn't until 1996 when I worked with a trans-woman that I started opening up to others. And when I transitioned, I decided that as part of my "I don't pass so I'm going to just be the best transwoman I can in public and hope I can sway some opinions" that I was a safe person to come to for other transfolk.
At Nintendo, after two trans friends were let go, (I thought) I was the only transperson on the call center floor. If someone was trans, I went out of my way to make sure they felt welcome, and if they had any policy questions they could come to me. As a manager, I went out of my way to make sure the trans-reps under me were taken care of, and represented as themselves should they want it.
One of the nice things was the "last batch" of trans folks before I left didn't NEED any help. They were confident and ready to take on the world.
So I like to think I associate with other transfolks, and help them out (and they help me) when necessary. The reality is, I don't associate with many people at all. Even my close friends rarely see me! ;)
https://twitter.com/gwenners/status/1399574609536503810
