But her momma said, "Never mind, your part is to be what you'll be."

[dolari]

Yesterday's Sir/Ma'am ass:
Me: "How can I help you today?"
Caller: "Well, sir, you see I have a suspended transaction I need to clear out."
M: "That's Ma'am."
C: "Yes, sir."
M: "That's Ma'am."
C: "Yes, sir."
M: "That's Ma'am."
C: "Yes, sir...oh, I'm sorry!"
M: "That's okay, I get it a lot. I'll get that cleared up for you."
C: "Yes, sir."

I had a very good heart to heart with several friends last night. One who had something to tell me but couldn't. Another who just needed a hug or two after a bad night.

It's amazing how you can never see how strong you yourself are till someone tells you straight up. Maybe it was growing up with a Narcissist who took credit for everything Good I did, but I don't give myself enough credit.

One conversation started out as "I'm not a pretty transperson." And she's gorgeous. And instead of smacking her upside the head and saying "GET OVER IT" I said something along the lines of "Well, stand next to me, and you'll be all the prettier." Of course she replied "Don't beat yourself up like that."

I tried to turn the conversation on it's head with a little reverse psychology, but after an hour, I realized the it had turned on MY head as well. It took someone trying to convince me I was better than them to point out X Y and Z and that I'm better than I think I am.

I really should give myself more credit than I do...it's just hard to break that "You're nothing without me, and I'm responsible for all the good in your life" programming.

Go get the Tommy DVD, scan to 1:23:40 and watch as this poor girl nearly gets smacked in the face four times by a flying guitar. Poor thing, she's really afraid this kid is gonna hit her. He almost does. :)

Comments

[ghostangel.livejournal.com]

*hugs* :3

[emilydm.livejournal.com]

I'd only added you to my AIM buddies list the evening before, now I'm glad I did - you were the only one online at that hour and I badly needed someone to talk to and calm me down. Thank you so much for being there. (hugs Jenn again)

[hemlock-martini.livejournal.com]

"Pretty" is subjective. It also isn't everything. [[hugs]]

[kengr]

One conversation started out as "I'm not a pretty transperson." And she's gorgeous. And instead of smacking her upside the head and saying "GET OVER IT" I said something along the lines of "Well, stand next to me, and you'll be all the prettier." Of course she replied "Don't beat yourself up like that."


Jenn, I've seen the pictures from the con. I know other trans folk who look about like you do. And some GGs who look *less* passable than you.

[jenndolari.livejournal.com]

The idea was more "Give her something to trip on" and less "I'm ugly." :)

[kisai.livejournal.com]

That call center conversation is exactly why I refuse to use pronouns or use the customers name at work. --; Whatever they call me is just tuned out, no matter how wrong it is.

[jenndolari.livejournal.com]

I know I shouldn't let it get to me, but, dammit, I paid good money for that name! :)