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Aug. 19th, 2023 11:35 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
dolariI've seen a few posts from friends talking about how it's getting harder and harder to relate to the younger generations. I worry about that myself a lot.
I don't think I've lost touch with younger generations, but the divide is there. But I do make the effort to keep in touch. Not by watching the latest shows, or listening to the latest music (although I tend to do the music thing), but by just talking and listening. And learning, specifically.
In becoming a "trans elder," something I'm trying hard to do is to allow myself to listen and learn from the younger folk. I don't want to end up like the folks in Boulton and Park who, when faced with an 18 year old in 1992, gave advice that was fine for a transwoman living in 1972.
It's not that I want to be a forty year old teenager walking around and saying "How do you do, fellow kids?" I just don't want to be the stuffy person giving bad advice to our younger folk who actually know better than me, learn from our younger folks, and be aware of the world around me as it is, and not as I remember. I may have the wisdom but they're living in the now, which is much different.
Also, I want to be the 2050s version of that awesome 1980s grandma who listened to death metal and genuinely enjoyed it.
I don't think I've lost touch with younger generations, but the divide is there. But I do make the effort to keep in touch. Not by watching the latest shows, or listening to the latest music (although I tend to do the music thing), but by just talking and listening. And learning, specifically.
In becoming a "trans elder," something I'm trying hard to do is to allow myself to listen and learn from the younger folk. I don't want to end up like the folks in Boulton and Park who, when faced with an 18 year old in 1992, gave advice that was fine for a transwoman living in 1972.
It's not that I want to be a forty year old teenager walking around and saying "How do you do, fellow kids?" I just don't want to be the stuffy person giving bad advice to our younger folk who actually know better than me, learn from our younger folks, and be aware of the world around me as it is, and not as I remember. I may have the wisdom but they're living in the now, which is much different.
Also, I want to be the 2050s version of that awesome 1980s grandma who listened to death metal and genuinely enjoyed it.
