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I'd like to know what you think about Carrie's decision. Who is right Becky? Or Carrie?

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[samarcand.livejournal.com]

I have to say, I reckon that Carrie has got it right. Whatever the situation, you have to be true to yourself. And, if other people get upset and can't contain themselves when there are other, somewhat more important, things going on, then, frankly, that's their problem.

[samarcand.livejournal.com]

The real crime, though, is your imitation of Jar Jar Binks.

And the fact that I recognised it as such just adds insult to injury.

[missratbat.livejournal.com]

Well, we got to see what Carrie's mother really does think after she died, so I guess in a 'cosmic' sense, Carrie's right.

But, of course, neither of her daughters know that.

So that's a good question. I think Carrie has to be true to herself, yes. One could say, though, that this 'isn't the right time'. On the other hand, go down that path and it's never 'the right time'.

I support what Carrie did. I don't know if I could do it myself, but that's probably my own weakness more than anything.

[debbie-ann.livejournal.com]

I think Carrie is right. And it shows that perhaps even Becky didn't know how serious Carrie was about who she is.

[erinlefey.livejournal.com]

I've always gotta be the one in opposition. :)

As I understand the family situation, her family doesn't know. Not doesn't support, doesn't KNOW. A funeral is not the time for the announcement. They don't need the shock.

Now, if the family knew, but didn't SUPPORT Carrie, that's different. She made the right call to stand up in spite of opposition.

[zaecus.livejournal.com]

I am incapable of a rational opinion because 'Don't do this to [the dead person]' is the worst sort of emotional blackmail IMHO and always makes me side with the other person.

[http://users.livejournal.com/strangelv__/]

But how much was it really a choice?

Could the only real alternative be to not go at all?

Making a scene at a funeral would put her father clearly in the wrong, IMO, whether or not he's alone in being there.

I'm sorry to see that Carrie's sister didn't understand after all.

There needs to be better gender-neutral formalware, but again, as someone whose lower brain functions don't loudly proclaim a gender, I can't say with certainty whether that would be an emotionally viable option. If I were to wake up tomorrow as a full-blown woman (and permanently) it would be an undesired massive complication to my life for awhile, but in the end I fully expect that I would fully adapt (I might have to hurry on certain things if menopause was going to happen on schedule). I seriously doubt that Becky and Carrie's father would handle it at all.

I still believe that neurosurgery that neutralized gender identity would be an adequate fix for being transgendered, at least in some (hopefully most) cases.


SL

[lisalees.livejournal.com]

I think the family does know, but does not acknowledge. Whatever the funeral is to others, this is Carrie's farewell to her mother.

[iqtech.livejournal.com]

I agree! There have been plenty of incidents that show that her father knew and chose to either ignore or actively tried to surpress the knowledge - in himself and in Carrie.

"Don't do this to mom?" She's gone - and in a much better position to understand than those now living. It makes me sad to here Becky say that because it shows that on some level, she really does not understand Carrie at all.

[jenndolari.livejournal.com]

Read carefully Becky's responses to Carrie all through the series. How she's dressing "him" up at the beginning, and how she has trouble saying "Carrie." She has misunderstood since the beginning.

[iqtech.livejournal.com]

I had forgotten that - but I remember now. Aiding is not necessarily understanding. I hope that things will get better for Carrie.

Becky is right

[georgieds.livejournal.com]

Having been there (my fathers funeral).

Becky is right the funeral is about respect for the person who is dead even if that means changing back or being androgynous for one day. If you want the funeral to be about you coming out or showing them (family friends) what a jerk you can be then go ahead. There are many other places and better times to come out without making life time enemies.